I was checking out at my dentist's office a few weeks back, and I came up on an interesting conversation. "Christmas is for men and for children." What followed was a long vent on how these two women had to do everything related to shopping, cooking, cleaning, wrapping, and coordinating the many aspects of their particular family Christmas with their adult children. I smiled a few times, and then I couldn't help it. I said this: "You know it doesn't have to be this way, right? We can make different choices."